My nephew sat with me having a beer after a family holiday party – he is in his 30’s and I am mid-50’s – the conversation was fun and light-hearted. We reviewed the happenings of the day and generally caught up with each other’s lives.
Our family is close knit and we have great respect for the “elders” (of which I may or may not fit into that category … depends on who you ask). Anyways, the younger adults will at times ask questions or start conversations trying to gain some wisdom or start a debate. In the past I would blurt out answers and defend my opinions going on and on.
Sure enough, this evening was no different.
The question came ……… And I had to stop and think. Of course, you have heard this question launched a million times to others and you listen to their answers. But tonight I could sense my nephew was asking from his heart and looking for MY answer.
He asked: “Would you change anything if you had to do it all over again?”
After several minutes of serious thought, I looked him in the eye and said, “Yea, I would.
I would have Smiled More!
He raised his eyebrows a bit, shook his head and said .. Yea!
I think the first realization we make is “That we did it” … ” We actually made it this far” That takes a while to set in as we strut around the empty house feeling oh so … like we conquered the world.
Then — it doesn’t take long … maybe a day, maybe a week and we soon realize the house actually IS empty and our kids are gone to live their own lives “without” us!! It starts to set in that they will survive without mom and dad and they are happier little grown-ups without our constant attention.
Ok … so now what?
So what are we suppose to do? We have to actually refocus our mind to think about other things besides our kids and their lives ………. That is NOT an easy task!! It can break the strongest of strong parents – but it does build character.
We did it … be proud … let them go
That “so now what” question is so hard … it kind of hurts. Is our life really done, where’s the meaning? But you do continue on your merry way (one must) and the “letting go” part will always be there. I mean they will always be there, they are not leaving …….. just living a happier life without you!
If you have given your children a strong foundation all their lives and have been good role models instilling in them the goodness that you want them to experience in life, then it is a given, you have to endure the Empty Nest Syndrome.
But here’s the kicker
They will marry and have children and come to you ……. for advice maybe, or support or just love. And it will start all over again …….. you do have a purpose.
I most definitely am! I wake at 4 am each day (a wake-up time that started when we had 4-5 dogs). They were up and ready to go, so I adjusted! ((That is really crazy … who has that many dogs?!?!?)) We did and I loved each and every one of them along with the chickens and Samuel Davis our one and only cat. These days we have one pet … Augie
Routine is a part of daily life … waking at a certain time, exercising, eating, checking the internet … it all becomes a part of each day. Starting the day off right is crucial to achieving the goals you have set out for yourself. Once all those to do items are checked off the list, you can move ahead and learn, discover and encourage others in their daily life.
I love thinking when I am up at 4 or 5 am in the morning … “most of the world is still asleep” and look what I have accomplished. It really is a good feeling!! The pep talks you give yourself are the most important talks you will need in life. Make sure each morning you tell yourself –
You are the Best … Happy, Healthy and Successful with your Life.These affirmations are solid groundwork for your success in whatever you decide to do.
Mindset … it all boils down to this. Wherever you set your mind to be – is where your life will go.
Motivation is the reason for people’s actions, willingness and goals. Motivation is derived from the word motive which is defined as a need that requires satisfaction. These needs could also be wants or desires that are acquired through influence of culture, society, lifestyle, etc. or generally innate. Motivation is one’s direction to behavior, or what causes a person to want to repeat a behavior, a set of force that acts behind the motives. An individual’s motivation may be inspired by others or events (extrinsic motivation) or it may come from within the individual (intrinsic motivation). Motivation has been considered as one of the most important reasons that inspires a person to move forward. Mastering motivation to allow sustained and deliberate practice is central to high levels of achievement e.g. in the worlds of elite sport, medicine or music.
From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
Use what motivates you to build your business. Motivation comes easily if there is a Dream or Goal that excites you.
What do you Love to do?
Me: I love to garden … I love to take outstanding photos … I love to eat healthy.
So think about this —- these things or activities that I love make me happy and put me and my mood in a good place. I can talk for hours (literally) about them and never lose my excitement. I can use these “triggers” or “loves” to grow my business. These topics motivate me.
Here’s how —- Start a blog and get excited about sharing your gardening skills and advice, your excellent photo shoot sessions or just a great picture each day. Or how about some Good recipes that you actually make and eat on a regular basis. Be genuine and focus on sharing these things.
Don’t spend time looking at what others are trying to do to build “their” business. Focus on yours!
Make sure you have or use items from your business and incorporate them into your blog posts.
Be Genuine … Encouraging .. and Have Fun!
Checked with my Pinterest boards and I have one titled Motivation. Let me know if you have something that should be there!!
I have been seeing this hashtag #blogmas the last few days and decided to check it out. It actually sounds like a fun challenge to get involved in to ramp up my blog writing. Some days we just need that little extra push and this just may do it for me! The challenge begins December 1st and continues through December 24th. Your blog is involved and you are to write a daily post. What you write about is totally up to you … you can pick a theme or write random posts. Being that this is my first time doing this, I will stick with random posts.
I have my numbered paper ready and will begin writing ideas to post about for each day. Of course, the first day, December 1, we are out of town babysitting my new grandson so I will have the opportunity to use the scheduling feature with WordPress.
I see others mention writing ahead so they don’t miss a day or fall behind – especially, with the busy holiday season upon us. I am sure I will be checking and reading many of the #blogmas posts as possible!
Over the years I have started several blogs depending on my interest at the time. My interests range from gardening, living in the country to motivation and photography. Nature and wildlife are high up on the list also and I could sit for hours with camera in hand waiting for that special photo.